Counsellors check your prejudices at the door

We live in a media driven visual age. Representations of women are narrow. Those to be admired mostly long  blonde/brunette hair, slim, pretty, adorned and physically enhanced by make up and bright, flattering or exposing clothing. While girls sink beneath the weight of comparison I believe our medical professionals are no less immune. In fact, the majority of female professionals across medicine, education and youth work seem themselves to conform to the archetype. Thus when presented with a girl of larger frame, short hair and devoid of adornment how easily do they accept the self diagnosis – ‘ I should have been a boy’? This social conditioning began when female presenters of a certain age began to disappear from Television. Actresses and pop stars became ‘easy on the eye’. The Kardashians could become rich and famous for pimping out their bodies and lives.

If we are to save this generation of girls the barbie blinkers need to come off. We can tell our daughters all day long that looks do not matter. As long as the world they are growing up in tells them something different, they will not listen.

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Not Trans but Aspie

http://www.bbc.com/news/health-37216875

Hoping above link works. It relates to today’s news story regarding undiagnosed ASD and Autism in girls and women. I mention it because I think these girls are very susceptible to the ideology of Trandgender. Hopefully , it is something medical professionals will consider before affirming gender change. Such young people are vulnerable and need support to exist in the world, their discomfort will not be eased by transitioning.

Sex symbol then and now

What passes for beauty changes with every age. But as I watch Alien with Sigornay Weaver tonight I wonder if she would be cast as Ripley today. Just makes you realise when you compare what was visually acceptable as female then and now, how much things have changed. Her role recast today would no doubt demand less clothing and more hair.

Appeal for resources

Professionally and personally I have been shocked by the number of young people suddenly claiming Trans identity after immersion in social media and fantasy video games, often coinciding with issues around bullying, trauma or a sense of difference related to other factors. The adults who know them best struggle to find subtle counter messages to sow doubt. Can anyone reading this suggest resources by way of music, film video games or books that might do this. Most of the young people I meet in this situation are over thinkers, self critical and pre occupied by the idea that they are not ‘good at being’ their assigned gender. The only social construct of either gender at their age seems to play to a very sexualised and sexist image. Grateful for any suggestions that provide role models or ways of presenting without the Transgender tag. Disturbingly, in one case a child who believed they were ‘no good at being a girl’ was told they ‘made a good boy’ as they presented in short hair, check shirt and binder. That seemed to me to say more about the prejudice of the counsellor than the reality. Hence, my plea for an alternative culture to present that helps young people explore their sense of self without losing their biological identity.

Cybercrime?

i would like to make a pitch for the manipulation of young people by pro Trans tumblr groups to be considered a cybercrime. We need a heavy weight guru from the medical profession or child psychology to call this trend for what it is. A search for identity and group affiliation as practised by teens for many generations. I tried direct contact with A few in the media but I was ignored. A strong counter message is needed. Eddie Izzard recently stood for the Labour Party executive. In interviews he has been vague, enthused or indifferent. Lynda Bryons a UK child psychologist and media darling ignored my contact. All our young people need is a sense that this can be a phase and an awareness they can retreat with dignity. They will not hear it from their parents and are not hearing it elsewhere. Instead of acquiescing schools should be challenging the criteria young people are using to define male and female. Too often the claim is ‘ I am no good at being…’ That is more about self esteem than gender confusion. We need gatekeepers to downplay the permanence of their feelings of confusion and reject the conclusions they are reaching. I feel very frustrated that the doubters and challengers are ignored and the professionals are afraid to speak out. Surely, there must be sufficient evidence of the harm being done to young people and their families to warrant public debate. Conversations in private and supportive web sites will not save this generation.